Are You Ready For A New Chapter in Your Love Life?

In 7 Mistakes Women Make that Repel Good Men and How to Reverse Them! the author shares personal insights and practical wisdom from an almost two-decade-long journey through the ups and downs of being single.

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Joanna Hairabedian

Joanna is widely recognized for her ability to help women uncover their unique inner gem, a process she coined Reveal the Diamond Within.® Every woman has beautiful facets on the inside, that when uncovered causes them to “sparkle” and “shine." She empowers women to uncover their inner beauty and confidence. Having overcome personal challenges and traumas, she brings heartfelt understanding to her teachings. Joanna often humorously refers to her experiences as earning a PhD from the University of "Ouch That Hurt Now What?"

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Note From the Author

My heart is excited about the journey you're about to embark on. Bringing positive change to someone's life is one of my greatest joys. With this book, you'll find guidance and hope for a meaningful connection with a good man.

In the United States, almost 50% of adults (adults) are single. Having been a divorce statistic myself, I, too, was navigating life solo, searching for love, and hoping to experience my happily ever after. My journey of being single spanned almost two decades.

In the United States, almost 50% of adults (men and women) are single. Having been a divorce statistic myself, I, too, was navigating life solo, searching for love, and hoping to experience my happily ever after. My journey of being single spanned almost two decades.

As the author, I intimately understand the ache of waking up to an empty bed. I know what the longing for partnership with my divine soul mate feels like. I understand what it’s like to be young and looking for your "Knight in Shining Armor." Having walked a parallel path in those shoes. I also understand the pain of rejection, abandonment, and betrayal from previous relationships with Mr. Wrong.

Life is a learning journey, and I decided to become a student. In fact, I graduated from the University of "Ouch that Hurt, Now What?" Maybe you haven’t experienced that school, but you’re single and want to find the right guy.

Being vulnerable with you, I've made every dating mistake in this book. Not realizing I was repelling the good men I sought. One day, in an ugly cry moment, I prayed for a spiritual mirror to be held up to my face. That brief prayer was a turning point, a catalyst that transformed my life.

The layers of self-discovery—the good, the bad, and the ugly unfolded. I embarked on a journey of learning to love myself. I started studying women who...



As you know, the quote above is an exaggeration, but sometimes it seems too true! Like most women, I dreamed of my mighty knight in shining armor who would ride in on his white horse and rescue me. He would be romantic, and we would have a special connection that only soulmates have. We would live happily ever after, just like in the movies. Did my first marriage play out like that? Ummm, not exactly. But keep reading!

Every woman wants her white knight, her defender. You deserve to have a guy who will honor, love, and cherish you, not one who will lie, cheat, and mistreat you. So why can it be challenging to find a good guy and have a forever happy ending?

The good news is you're going to learn what mistakes to avoid and how to attract and keep a good man for your happily ever after. Let's start with a few questions:

Have you been rejected when the man you love says, "I'm sorry, but I don't love you anymore?"

Do you wonder why the man you had a connection with suddenly disappeared?

Is time running out on your biological clock?

Has depression set in because you haven't yet found the right love connection?

Chapter 1

THE WIIFM? SYNDROME (What's In It for Me?)

All joking aside, doesn't it seem like people are more self-centered, entitled, and operate from a victim mentality? Do you seem to meet more takers than givers? Does your friend consistently have a crisis that needs fixing, but when you need something, they're unavailable? Or perhaps you are that friend. Have you ever found yourself cornered by a chatterbox who won't stop talking or complaining?

The common denominator in these questions is what I call "The WIIFM? Syndrone," which stands for "What's In It For Me?" Yep. It's all about me, me, me, me, me, me, me!.

Before we examine the actual mistakes women make in relationships, we have two specific topics to discuss. These comprise the core foundation of all the other mistakes and are vital to understanding. This chapter covers the first topic: WIIFM?

As we've already discussed, it takes courage and humility to examine ourselves honestly and recognize both the good and the not-so-good aspects of our personalities. CONGRATULATIONS! You are doing it—which sets you apart from other women. So, let's begin.

Chapter 2

The Beautiful You

When you're alone in front of the mirror, what are your secret feelings about yourself? Do you struggle with unworthiness? Are you struggling with self-body shaming? Do you have trouble feeling worthy? Are you having trouble with the aging process? Are you unable to receive a compliment? Do the words "If only I were this . . . " or "If only I were that . . ." wage a war in your mind?

If you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, you are not alone. I've been there and done that. Now is your time to shift this within yourself. If I did it, you can too!

Before we discuss the mistakes women make that repel good men, the inner self- mirror is the second foundation stone we need to address. Your identity and how you see yourself at the core of your world. They drive all that you do. Based on my personal experience and as a seasoned speaker, I would say this is the number one issue women struggle with.

A good exercise to employ daily is to stand six feet away from the mirror and repeat, "I am beautiful. I am loved." From this distance, you aren't focused on your imperfections, and it replaces negative thinking with positive affirmations.

Chapter 3

Mistake #1

Aren't we women waiting for that "perfect" man to come along? Aren't we often good at helping a guy change something about himself, especially after he's committed to the relationship? We're great at giving guys advice on how to improve things. We women know best, right?

All kidding aside, when it comes to romance results, nothing will repel a good man faster than:

Making him feel like he's not good enough.

Trying to change him.

Finding something wrong with him, redoing his work, or negating his efforts todo somthing nice.

Constantly one-upping him.

Dismissing his compliments because you can't receive a compliment and think he's not sincere.


Topics Covered

Chapter 01

The WIIFM? (What’s In It for Me?) Syndrome

In this chapter, we delve into the WIIFM? Syndrome, exploring its two aspects: the positive side that encourages mutual servanthood in relationships, and the negative side that revolves around self-centered needs. We examine how media stereotypes about men and women shape unrealistic relationship expectations.

Chapter 02

The Beautiful You

This chapter emphasizes the impact of words and self-acceptance. It guides readers in shedding negative self-perceptions, embracing their inner beauty, and fostering a positive self-image crucial for attracting a healthy partner.

Chapter 03

The King Maker and The Man Breaker

Here, the focus on the influence of women's attitudes towards men. Contrasting 'King Makers' who uplift and support their partners with 'Man Breakers' who demean and undermine them, we explore the significant impact of these attitudes on relationships.

Chapter 04

The Reverse Trainer

This chapter delves into the dynamics of giving and receiving in relationships. It highlights how 'Reverse Trainers' inadvertently teach others to withhold affection and respect, perpetuating negative relationship patterns.

Chapter 05

The Yes Syndrome

Addressing the issue of women losing their identity and power in relationships, this chapter explores the tendency to become overly accommodating and pleasing at the expense of their own needs.

Chapter 06

The Queen of Chaos

Highlighting the drawbacks of oversharing personal troubles and thriving on drama, this chapter encourages readers to address their internal issues for healthier relationships. It provides keys to awareness and how to make changes.

Chapter 07

The Director, A.K.A. The Back Seat Driver

The emphasis here is creating awareness of the need to control and organization in the relationships. It highlights the importance of mutual respect and space, discouraging behaviors that may unknowingly diminish partners.

Chapter 08

The One-upper, A.K.A The Competitor

Chapter eight explores the dynamics of competition within relationships, emphasizing how the need to outdo or correct a partner can lead to feelings of inadequacy and resentment.

Chapter 09

Falling for Fantasy Not Reality

Addressing the trap of falling for an idealized notion of a relationship, this chapter highlights internal motivation of investing time in Mr. Wrong. It guides readers to pursue genuine connections based on mutual respect and understanding.

Chapter 10

Walking Out Your Destiny

The final chapter consolidates all the principles learned, providing guidance on how to apply them in daily life and walk out the path to a fulfilling and healthy relationship.

Discover Important Principles

This book serves as a candid and empowering guide for women, gaining profound wisdom from the author's own experiences of unknowingly making mistakes that repelled good men.

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Avoid Repelling Good Men

Recognize Behaviors that Push Away good partners.

Boost Your Confidence

Understand how to love and honor yourself.


You'll gain practical wisdom, insights and secrets to attract and maintain a wonderful relationship with Mr. Right!


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